Go read Julie DiCaro’s article, “The Ugly Truth About Women in Sports and Social Media,” right now. Oh, you’ve already read it? Go read it again.

Now a question for you: what the [censored] is wrong with people?

I suppose Julie tries to answer that–as best she can–in her writing. But I find it impossible to rationalize the vitriol and hate she and others have received. Just for voicing a sports opinion.

Go read the tweets in that article again. Honestly, what makes anyone think typing that is necessary? I mean, just thinking it is pretty disgusting. But to publish it, to share it with the world?

What the [censored] is wrong with people?

I worked in sports radio in the largest market in Canada for over 13 years. During that time, more than a few women worked at the station. They filled all sorts of roles, from sportscasters to producers and reporters to show hosts. Some moved on to other forms of media, some moved out of sports entirely, and some are still with that same radio broadcaster.

But all had one thing in common: their knowledge. I would stack their sports smarts up against anyone else’s in the station–male or female. They certainly weren’t ill-informed.

On the other hand, if you’re one of the people thinking, typing, and tweeting jaw-dropping comments to Julie–or any other person–on social media, you’re an outlier. Most people are not backing you up. Despite what you think, your message is not getting through. Yes, your actual words are being read. But the message you convey is definitely not the one you intend. Your anger is blurring it.

Sure, disagree. No one’s going fault you for that. But do it in a respectful way.

Or keep it to yourself.

After all, like everyone, I’m sure Julie has had her share of struggles in life. But that doesn’t mean she should shoulder yours, too.